Casual dating sex
I needed to do all that dating before I was ready to be part of a Relationship. If you're a serial monogamist and you're trying to keep things chill with a new person, here's exactly how you do it: Open communication is traditionally regarded as super important in any kind of relationship, no matter how serious it is. Sorry, there's no way around it: Your relationship with someone—whether it's a one-night stand or a marriage—will be pretty fucked if you can't get onboard with being as honest as possible. If you're dating one person exclusively, no matter how casual you want to keep things, they can't stay that way. I'm sorry, because I'm sure you want to protest right now, but I stand by this assessment: If you are only dating one person for long enough, no attempts to keep things light and easy, no matter how earnest, will effectively prevent that person from turning into a monogamous paramour.
I hopped from serious relationship to serious relationship, racking up a surprisingly high number of "meaningful" relationships at a young age.
They're both still allowed to see other people, and they certainly aren't discussing marriage or children.
They're just out for a good time and to have fun with each other - that's the extent of the relationship.
Years ago, I had what I considered the ultimate sex friendship. And if I'd had better boundaries back then, we possibly could've maintained the great, casual thing we had going on.
All that dissolved the first time we had a sexless sleepover together. Again, the dude in the above scenario didn't do anything wrong by expressing himself and his needs.
It accidentally established a kind of intimacy that forever warped our situation. That's the most important part, really: Maintaining an open policy of honesty between the two of you.